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Monday, April 5, 2010

A Slow Path In The Wrong Direction


Today - I spoke with a friend - About three (3) months ago she had found out her husband was having an affair.... He swore that it was over... He swore that it only lasted a week or so.... Today - my friend found out the affair had been going on for six (6) years and it's NOT OVER... Six YEARS!!!! How do you overcome this? How do you heal? How do you forgive? How do you go on? What do you say to your three (3) children - ages 7, 9 and 14 - who think their daddy is a hero? How do you NOT shatter into a thousand pieces?

I once heard that things like this don't happen all of a sudden... It's a slow path... in the wrong direction... My Sunday school teacher had said once that he doesn't have any women friends - unless they are with him AND his wife... He would never go to a casual lunch/dinner... he would never call a woman on the phone to chat.... He has ONE woman in his life and that is his wife... He said he believed that casual can move in the wrong direction... I tend to believe that is true.... I have always had many platonic male friends growing up - my best friend growing up was a boy - All through junior high and all the way through to college and beyond he was the best - always platonic... never thought about anything else friend... I remember my husband (my boyfriend) at the time getting jealous that I would spend the weekend with by best friend... I did not understand why... now I do... Looking through the eyes of a much older and wiser woman...

Infidelity is a very easy trap to fall into - if you allow yourself to play with fire... My friend will be going through some very tough times in the coming days... months.. years.. Her family will suffer for it... her faith .. her love... her strength... her beliefs will all be tested... Her ability to trust again won't come easily.... it is sad to me how much damage can occur by slowing following the wrong path towards something other than what is right.....



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5 comments:

Oh Sew Good said...

How does an affair go on for as long as it does/can? I don't understand. I hope I never have to find out either.

RCUBEs said...

Though we know that our spiritual enemy has been active too in creating havoc among married couples, we can't blame the enemies all the time as we are also given the knowledge by the Lord [for those who are in the Lord]...That is sad and I see it at my own workplace, where known married men or women flirt with each other. Like what you said, it is dangerous! One thing can lead to another.

Thanks for asking about the earthquake but it was me who heard mild rambling on the ground and at first, my hubby didn't believe me because it was barely noticeable where we were. Then some very mild rattling. Sign of the times? May the Lord bless you and protect you and your family. Take care sister.

hip chick said...

How sad for her and her children.

Karen said...

Love this song and its message...my dear granddaddy used to say that we all need to draw a line in the sand between right and wrong...if we never place even a toe or finger over that line...then we will never have to worry about the rest of us going over...

So sorry for your friend and her children....

Janera said...

Her life will never be the same, nor will her children's. My heart hurts for them.

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